Hi, doubletap.
I don't think there is an "ideal" flow, some like lots of flow through their fuge and some don't.
Here's my experience though.
I was running a PanWorld 100PX-X 1270 gph and I replaced it with an Eheim 1262 900 gph. I like the Eheim much better, its quieter and there's a lot less entrained microbubbles in my tank. However, I can't tell any difference in the effectiveness of the refugium. Keep in mind, though, I've got a rather small refugium for my 140. A larger refugium would require more flow.
Good luck,
Steve